I just watched a TED talk from Brene Brown that has answered a lot of my questions that I brought up in a recent post. She explains that the key to living wholeheartedly is determined by how we react to vulnerability.
People sometimes numb Vulnerability. I am a typical example of this. Sometimes I think that burying an emotion will smother it until it disappears because denying something is so much easier than actually dealing with it. And of course, it never really disappears. It just grows darker and more painful. Even worse, you can't selectively numb emotions When you try to desensitize from your pain, anger, or regret, you also diminish your ability to feel joy, compassion and love.
In her years of research, Brene has discovered that people who are truly happy believe what makes them vulnerable makes them beautiful. And they realize that vulnerability is the birthplace of joy, creativity, belonging and love. This way of thinking is very rewarding but also takes courage. She explained that one definition of courage is "telling the story of who you are with your whole heart." By showing courage, we let go of who we think we ought to be and embrace who we are, and are able to connect with others.
She concludes by sharing four ways that we can accept our own vulnerability leading to a strong sense of love and belonging:
1. Let our selves be seen
2. Love with our whole hearts
3. Practice gratitude and lean into joy
4. I AM enough
To feel vulnerable is to feel alive! Please make the time to watch this talk, it is about 20 minutes long. Brene is very intelligent and funny, she opened my heart and mind with this topic.
I hope with all my heart that you feel worthy of love and belonging, because you are!